Why look for an alternative to FetLife?
- Not a dating app, no matching
- Dense, dated interface
- Videos tied to paid Support
Price we recorded for FetLife: Free · optional Support (no auto-renewal, price shown after login). Plan: free (optional Support). 1 of the 8 alternatives offered a free plan or trial when we checked (Feeld). French support: Feeld, Wyylde, Nouslib, Ashley Madison, Gleeden.
The 8 best FetLife alternatives
Ranked by SpiceRadar score (weighted average of five criteria: content, quality, value, usability, trust). Only services we have reviewed are listed. Our method →
1. JOYclub 7.9/10
JOYclub is Europe's big German sex-positive community: 7.48 million members, dating, events, swinger clubs, livestreams and forums. Free Basic; Premium from €9.50/month (women, couples) or €16.50/month (men) on the web; €20/month in the app.
Best for Open-minded singles and couples who want a community, events and clubs · Price Free Basic · Premium from €9.50/€16.50 per month
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.9/10, 0.2 points above FetLife on our grid.
- 7.48M members, 1.1M logins a day
- Events, clubs, livestreams, forums
- Men need Premium (from €16.50/month)
2. Feeld 7.8/10
Feeld is the sex-positive dating app for kink, ENM and poly: Desires on every profile, up to five linked partners, a free tier that lets you match and message, and Majestic for Incognito and Desire filters.
Best for Kinky, poly, bi-curious singles and couples who want to say what they want up front · Price Free · Majestic monthly/annual (price by country, in-app)
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.8/10, 0.1 points above FetLife on our grid. Like FetLife, you can start without paying.
- Best app for kink, ENM and poly
- Desires shown on every profile
- App only, no web version
3. Wyylde 7.6/10
Wyylde is France's biggest libertine network: 7M users, real swinger parties and clubs, live cam exhib and certified profiles. Free sign-up, but chatting needs Gold from €22.90/month or €99.90/year, billed discreetly.
Best for Swingers, open couples and libertine singles who want real-life parties and meets, especially in France · Price Free sign-up · Gold €22.90/mo, €44.90/3 mo, €99.90/yr
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.6/10, 0.1 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- 7M users, France's #1 libertine community
- Real swinger parties, clubs and events
- No free messaging, Gold required
4. Nouslib 7.5/10
Nouslib is France's open-minded dating app since 2007: 3M+ members claimed, 60% women and couples, solo or couple profiles, ephemeral photos, video calls and 'free tonight' hookups. Free to join, but you need a subscription (from €9.90/week or €21.90/month on the French App Store) to really use it.
Best for Open-minded singles and couples in France looking for threesomes, swaps and no-strings dates · Price Free sign-up · from €9.90/week or €21.90/month (App Store FR)
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.5/10, 0.2 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- 3M+ members, 60% women and couples
- Solo and couple profiles
- Little usable without paying
5. AdultFriendFinder 7.3/10
AdultFriendFinder is the largest generalist adult dating and social network, with profiles, groups and chat. Its signup flow is front and centre, and it shows a live 'members online' counter by region.
Best for people looking for a big, general adult social network
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.3/10, 0.4 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- Huge, international member base
- Social features beyond dating
- Upsells to paid membership are frequent
6. Ashley Madison 7.3/10
Ashley Madison is the iconic discreet dating site: free to join, Credits to message, private photo galleries unlocked with keys, discreet billing and 91 million member accounts claimed since 2002.
Best for Discreet, no-strings dating for attached people, open couples and singles who value privacy · Price Free to join · Credits to message (prices after login)
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.3/10, 0.4 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- Biggest name in discreet dating
- Blur, mask and private-key photo tools
- Credit prices hidden until login
7. Gleeden 7.3/10
Gleeden is the affair site made by women: 15M+ members, free for women, men pay per contact with credits that never expire (5 credits to open a conversation). 'Gleeden' never shows on your bank statement. Pack prices appear after sign-up.
Best for People in a relationship looking for a discreet affair, especially in France · Price Free for women · men: credit packs (5 credits per first message)
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.3/10, 0.4 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- Free for women
- Pay per contact, credits never expire
- Men pay for each new conversation
8. BiCupid 7.2/10
BiCupid is the bisexual dating veteran (since 2003, 4.2M+ members claimed) for bi singles, couples looking for a third and the bi-curious, with selfie-video verification and private albums. Premium from $33.99 a month on the App Store.
Best for Bi singles and couples looking for a third · Price Free signup · Premium $33.99/month (App Store US)
Versus FetLife: Scored 7.2/10, 0.5 points below FetLife: pick it for a specific use rather than for the score.
- 20+ years focused on bi dating
- Couples and unicorns welcome
- Premium $33.99/month
FetLife vs its alternatives at a glance
| Service | Score | Recorded price | Free / trial | Payment | French |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| FetLife (baseline) | 7.7/10 | Free · optional Support (no auto-renewal, price shown after login) | Yes | — | Yes |
| JOYclub | 7.9/10 | Free Basic · Premium from €9.50/€16.50 per month | — | — | — |
| Feeld | 7.8/10 | Free · Majestic monthly/annual (price by country, in-app) | Yes | — | Yes |
| Wyylde | 7.6/10 | Free sign-up · Gold €22.90/mo, €44.90/3 mo, €99.90/yr | No | card, Apple Pay | Yes |
| Nouslib | 7.5/10 | Free sign-up · from €9.90/week or €21.90/month (App Store FR) | No | card, Apple Pay | Yes |
| AdultFriendFinder | 7.3/10 | — | — | — | — |
| Ashley Madison | 7.3/10 | Free to join · Credits to message (prices after login) | No | — | Yes |
| Gleeden | 7.3/10 | Free for women · men: credit packs (5 credits per first message) | — | card | Yes |
| BiCupid | 7.2/10 | Free signup · Premium $33.99/month (App Store US) | — | — | — |
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Frequently asked questions
What is the best alternative to FetLife?
By our score, JOYclub (7.9/10), especially for open-minded singles and couples who want a community, events and clubs. Next come Feeld (7.8), Wyylde (7.6), Nouslib (7.5).
Is there a free alternative to FetLife?
When we checked, Feeld offered a free plan or trial. Terms change often: confirm on the official site.
Which FetLife alternatives support French?
Feeld, Wyylde, Nouslib, Ashley Madison, Gleeden: French interface or support per our listing.
How is this ranking built?
Only from our own reviews: a provisional editorial score on five weighted criteria, with prices and terms taken from official pages. Affiliate links never change the score or the order.